Whether you’ve come to seek support, or to generously support others, please remember that we’re all here to make a dent in addictions and compulsions. Be encouraging, uplifting, kind, and patient – especially with people who may be new to Pillrs or to recovery.
Beyond that, these guidelines may help:
- The only requirement is a desire to help others, or be helped, to find healing.
- Always encourage and uplift fellow pillars. Pillars use only positive reinforcement to help their fellow pillars.
- Don’t be a jerk. These are a few examples. If you see them, flag the message / post / comment and tell us:
- Name-calling. Focus on the post, not the person. That includes terms that feel personal even when they’re applied to posts (like “lazy”, “ignorant”, or “whiny”).
- Bigotry of any kind. Language likely to offend or alienate individuals or groups based on race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc. will not be tolerated. At all. (Those are just a few examples; when in doubt, just don’t.)
- Harassment, bullying, flaming, or trolling. If someone is hostile to you or others, tell us: firstname.lastname@example.org. Flaming, trolling, and attacking fellow users may result in temporary or permanent bans.
- Do not judge other pillars. What they find difficult, you may find easy. Remember that not everyone in Pillrs is at the same place on their journey as you are.
- Anonymity is our foundation. Many members are on Pillrs because they can’t – for whatever reason – go to others for support. As such, do not attempt to identify the real person behind an alias and, if their identity becomes known, let the user know so they may change aliases (if they so desire).
- No advice, with two exceptions: “Something that worked for me was…” or if a fellow pillar explicitly asks for advice. Don’t try to fix someone’s thinking, experience or beliefs. Offer examples from your own journey.
- No preaching. Pillrs seeks to help all who meet the primary requirement (#1), it is not a place for preaching about religion. Sometimes our members have been deeply hurt by preaching, religious advice or churches that have become abusive. And not everyone in Pillrs shares the same beliefs, so let’s respect their desire for freedom regardless of religion.
- Be welcoming, be patient, and assume good intentions. It’s easy to misunderstand someone’s intentions on email and easier still to misunderstand their intentions on text. New users might not know the rules – please help steer them in the right direction with patience and kindness.
- Help others join Pillrs. Our community is only as strong as its members. Pillars always look for good-hearted encouragers and those seeking life-change to bring into the community.
Inspiration and credit to the Stack Overflow community guidelines.